Now is the time

Now is the time

So many of us are single and crying for a spouse, a partner, someone to complete half our Deen. But the real question is whether or not, we have completed the other half ourselves? Why are we so desperate to have someone come in and tell us our worth? We are so much more than other people’s words, or our weight, or the amount of likes we get on social media.

That is getting off topic, but my point is that your self-worth is not dependent on anyone else’s love. But, the real message for this blog post is that Ramadaan is the time for us to supplicate and beg Allah to improve ourselves, to make us better people and better humans. If we truly want to marry someone else, we have to make sure that we are able to be the type of person we would want to marry.

You want someone who is religious? But, are you religious?

You want someone who prays? But, do you pray?

You want someone who is able to help you become a better person, but what if you need to be the one who has to help your spouse? Are you able to step up to be that person? If not, start now. The month is not yet over, pray it all out.

Ask Allah for the guidance and strength to make you a better person. To make you the person you need to be for your spouse.  But enough about you.

Make dua for your spouse. That he/ she is the person you need, not always want. Because sometimes what you need is not necessarily what you want. That is because Allah gives you what is best for you, in that situation and to help you in the future. The test that you are going through today is to help you for the things you have prayed for.

Pray for a spouse that is first and foremost Allah fearing. For if they are Allah fearing they will not treat you badly. Allah fearing also means that even if they lose interest in you, they will not treat you badly.

Pray for a spouse that will be a light in your life.

Pray for a spouse that will advise you in all times.

Pray for a spouse that is your pillar of strength in times of need.

You need to pray for a spouse that will remain faithful to you.

You need to pray for someone that will help improve you, while you also help to improve them.

You need to focus on yourself, but also to pray for the exact type of guy you want.

Life is no fairytale. So praying for someone who is driving Ferrari’s and Porche’s and Land Rovers etc, and someone who has millions in their bank accounts, a mansion and some exotic holiday house, and to still have a stellar personality, is highly unrealistic. Not to mention that people will always ask and pray for someone who is good looking.

That in itself is one of the shallowest things you could find. Looks mean nothing other than attraction. Looks only pull you towards a person. But I can take an oath and say that nothing interests me more than a person’s brains and personality, despite their outward looks.

But if you do happen to find someone who is such a prince / princess, Alhamdulillah. I am very happy for you, but please do remember that this world, this Dunya is not for perfection, that is what Jannah is for. So, with that in mind, remember that perfection is an illusion and illusions shatter.

Ramadaan Virtues

Ramadaan virtues

Assalaamu Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu ~May the peace and blessings of Allah (God) be upon you

As I learned in Madressah (an after school class for learning Islam), I am using everything from there to write this blog post. Granted it is delayed, but hopefully what I am about to part, will be useful to even one person.

Fasting in Islam is referred to as ‘Saum’, although I will not use that word. Now, there are benefits alone for just fasting, and there are benefits for the month of Ramadaan as well.

So, what are the virtues of just fasting?

Simple.

• Suhail (May Allah be pleased with him) narrates that Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) said: ‘Jannah (paradise) has eight doors. The name of one of them is ‘Raihan’ and only the fasting person will enter Jannah through it.” ~Bukhari, Muslim

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Okay, so backtrack for a bit there. Just for fasting alone, as Muslim, we get to enter paradise. Through a special door! Isn’t that alone enough to make you want to fast? No? Then, here is another virtue of fasting.

 

• Abu Saeed (May Allah be pleased with him) reports from Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): “Whoever keeps a single fast in the path of Allah, Allah will place Hell to a distance of 70 years away from him.”

Well, I don’t know about you, but that is enough reason for me to fast without a single complaint. Who wouldn’t want Hell at a distance of 70 years away from them? I don’t know, but Islam to me, has truly made every effort to keep you away from Hell. There is just one act completely despicable that guarantees you a direct ticket to Hell, do not pass begin and do not even attempt to use your redemption card –and that is suicide.

Suicide –gosh I have tons to say on that matter and it makes me emotional as a shipwreck, but it is a topic for another day. I have personal experience with that, but of course it is not for me to talk about.

But reigning myself in back to the virtues of Ramadaan.

• Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) said: “The reward of every virtue increases from 10 to 70 fold. Allah says ‘Fasting is an exception to this rule. Fasting is solely for me. I will give its reward Myself. The servant has left his desires for Me’. There are two joys for the fasting person: one at the time of iftaar (dusk time when the fast is broken) and the other at the time of meeting his Lord. The smell of the fasting person’s mouth is better than the smell of musk in the sight of Allah. Fasting is a shield against sin and Hell.”

1. ~ Bukhari and Muslim

 

• “In the first night the Satan and rebellious Jinn are chained, the doors of Hell are closed and the doors of Jannah are open until the end of Ramadaan.  A caller from Allah proclaims ‘O seekers of good, go forth and O seekers of evil, stop.’ Allah frees many from Hell and this happens nightly.”

1. ~Tirmidhi, Bukhari and Muslim.

Just looking at those two long hadiths, I am stunned.  The virtues are immense. Heaven and Hell. One open until late and the other closed down? Brilliant! Like that gives you enough motivation to do it and to want to do it too!

Anyhow, I have lots of working pending! I have to go. Keep us all in your prayers, especially those who are oppressed.

Apparition

 

I don’t care who you are

I only want you to see me

Not the apparition I appear to be

I want you to see the real me

 

 

If you could take a minute to get to know me

I’d be building castles in the clouds

Head over heels,

If only you could try to know mw

 

 

Take the chance no one has before

Take the risk and get to know me

I’m not what I seem

I am not the apparition I pretend to be

 

 

I am not an apparition

I am a real girl

 

I won’t hide in a world of fakes