A Love Letter

People assume love is easy. Yes, love is easy, if you are falling in love. Falling for someone does not always guarantee that they will love you too. Like I once heard, when crushing on someone you end up being crushed.

 

But then again, love is not always a bad thing. And please, for the love of all that’s holy, don’t tell me about Romeo and Juliet’s love. That was pure suicide. And idiocy, sure they made a really good point : never underestimate the power of hormonal teenagers. Especially if they are forbidden for each other. Also they made another strong point: never, ever tell a child that they are forbidden from doing something. It just spurs them on to do it, despite the consequences of their actions. 

 

But getting back to my reason here today: I came across the most beautiful message I have ever read.  

 

 ♥ A Love letter from A Muslim Man to the Girl He loves ♥ 

 

“If you love me, don’t confess your love to me, this won’t please me and will keep me away! Love words don’t attract me. If you love me, wait for me and I will knock on your door in the right time. Don’t give me privileges which I don’t deserve. Keep me away from you, and I will approach you. If you approach me, I will stay away from you. Don’t love me, for I want you ignorant in love. I want to teach you love when the right time come and you will be my Halaal (acceptable, permissible), only when we are joined together under our Creator’s satisfaction. Don’t tell me what you feel, don’t give me from your time, don’t push me to lose you. I am a man who won’t accept to see the one he loves committing sins or to live a forbidden love behind the back of her family. I don’t want her to feel guilty and don’t want her heart to suffer. Put limits to me that I won’t cross, kill me inside you so I won’t grow to kill you. Preserve what is beautiful inside you. I want you innocent, chaste, pure. I want you dear, not easy. And then, Only then, I will face everything and will be ready to go through difficulties to get you … How could I be a faithful man to you when I try to break your chastity? How would I be faithful to you if I push you to betray your family? How could I trust a love which grew under Allah’s (God’s) wrath ? To love you means to protect you, to preserve you not to kill what is beautiful in you. Don’t be easy because then, I may not value you. Don’t love me now, so I won’t hate you! My heart wants you and doesn’t want to lose you. I don’t want you to be just a passing fancy to me, I want you a wife, a lover, the mother of my children, I want you to be the one I will spend my whole life with.”

 

I think this is a role model that we all should aspire to be. A woman who is chaste and pure and innocent. A woman who is a dignity and innocence and purity and virtues and values intact. A woman as such, needs to be with a king to be valued as a queen. A slap-dash man of today might not see the worth and jewel of a woman she is, but the right knight will come and sweep her of her feet and make her see her worth. Men today need to learn to draw limits. Women need to learn self-worth and learn to conduct themselves in a dignified manner. Women need to learn self-respect, because that is where they are lacking. 

 

They lack to realize that their body is a temple, and as a temple, they need to safeguard it. They need to consider the implications of their actions. Women are treasures. It’s time that the people realize it. 

 

So keep your opinions of your self-worth in esteem and make the right choices. 

 

Until next time,

 

Ciao

 

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