Now is the time

Now is the time

So many of us are single and crying for a spouse, a partner, someone to complete half our Deen. But the real question is whether or not, we have completed the other half ourselves? Why are we so desperate to have someone come in and tell us our worth? We are so much more than other people’s words, or our weight, or the amount of likes we get on social media.

That is getting off topic, but my point is that your self-worth is not dependent on anyone else’s love. But, the real message for this blog post is that Ramadaan is the time for us to supplicate and beg Allah to improve ourselves, to make us better people and better humans. If we truly want to marry someone else, we have to make sure that we are able to be the type of person we would want to marry.

You want someone who is religious? But, are you religious?

You want someone who prays? But, do you pray?

You want someone who is able to help you become a better person, but what if you need to be the one who has to help your spouse? Are you able to step up to be that person? If not, start now. The month is not yet over, pray it all out.

Ask Allah for the guidance and strength to make you a better person. To make you the person you need to be for your spouse.  But enough about you.

Make dua for your spouse. That he/ she is the person you need, not always want. Because sometimes what you need is not necessarily what you want. That is because Allah gives you what is best for you, in that situation and to help you in the future. The test that you are going through today is to help you for the things you have prayed for.

Pray for a spouse that is first and foremost Allah fearing. For if they are Allah fearing they will not treat you badly. Allah fearing also means that even if they lose interest in you, they will not treat you badly.

Pray for a spouse that will be a light in your life.

Pray for a spouse that will advise you in all times.

Pray for a spouse that is your pillar of strength in times of need.

You need to pray for a spouse that will remain faithful to you.

You need to pray for someone that will help improve you, while you also help to improve them.

You need to focus on yourself, but also to pray for the exact type of guy you want.

Life is no fairytale. So praying for someone who is driving Ferrari’s and Porche’s and Land Rovers etc, and someone who has millions in their bank accounts, a mansion and some exotic holiday house, and to still have a stellar personality, is highly unrealistic. Not to mention that people will always ask and pray for someone who is good looking.

That in itself is one of the shallowest things you could find. Looks mean nothing other than attraction. Looks only pull you towards a person. But I can take an oath and say that nothing interests me more than a person’s brains and personality, despite their outward looks.

But if you do happen to find someone who is such a prince / princess, Alhamdulillah. I am very happy for you, but please do remember that this world, this Dunya is not for perfection, that is what Jannah is for. So, with that in mind, remember that perfection is an illusion and illusions shatter.